I'll Do it Today, Instead
Updated: Jan 13
Since finishing college in 2014, I have held several jobs that each felt a bit like scraping frozen butter over untoasted white bread (something that I think a lot of people can relate to). Then, eventually, a new thought began to materialize in my head... I was a square peg in a round hole, trying to force something that was just not going to work.
It took me a long time to stop blaming everyone - including myself - for that frustration. I really had to deconstruct my thoughts (many of which were inherited) about how success and work relate to each other. Doing so has been a lot like any creative work: first I thought about the general principal, then rebuilt my "acceptable" bandwidth, and now I am in the process of defining exactly what success means. This step will never be quite finished.
I must admit that a major catalyst for my action was observing others who were miserable. "Miserable" does not always look like someone crouched down crying, or even having any type of excruciating external circumstances. Thinking otherwise, would be a race to the bottom. Sometimes, feeling miserable can mean feeling just good enough to keep going, which is a dangerous place to be. That seems to be the road to unhappiness. To be clear, most jobs and projects are inherently neutral, but how "pleasant" or "horrible" they are depends on who is doing them and what their motivations are.
This brings us to my next point, which is the title of this blog: "the entitled millennial." It's very interesting to me that some people are confused why millennials generally
Want. To. Do. What. They. Want. To. Do.
You only have one life (at least that is what I believe) and you could be killed at any moment. This could be the last thing that you read, or the last thing that I write. My dining room chandelier could come crashing down and kill me, or you could get hit by a car. This is not to pour out doom and gloom, but to instead emphasize how important is it to think about yourself and how you relate to the rest of the world.
A person can be entitled (and should be), without assuming that others will take ownership of their desires and produce something for them. Everyone is living in their own orbit and trying the best that they can. The world of work is changing as people are questioning old ways of doing business, but it is irresponsible to wait for or expect someone to give you a "better deal" - you need to create that for yourself. Our world will change the more individuals take ownership of their own lives, in both small ways and large.
We create meaning (and thus create our reality) through word associations. I want to reclaim the term "entitled millennial" and transform it into a source of pride and a call to action.